My name is Kaaliyah (Kay or Layah) Owen. I'm 14 years old. I have recently been blessed with a beautiful baby girl who I have named Zoey after my mum. I live in the care system and am currently placed with a foster family in Great Yarmouth. I'm really loving it as were right on the beach. I've found them to be the most supportive ever as I had a hard time when my mum died as my dad turned to drink. I recently also lost my dad but I know that me and Zoey are going to have a good life where we are now.Me and my daughters dad Joey have a really on and off relationship which I know we now need to sort out not only for Zoey but also for Joey's 3 year old daughter Aaliyah. I can't wait to experience life as a mummy to a little girl and Step-mummy. Also a kid who now knows what it's like to live in a family where I'm loved and looked after and I don't have to do the looking after.
Blogging helps me to express the words I can't to other people which makes it less stressful on me.Which is always good.

~All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.

Thursday, 17 October 2013

#24 - Asking For Help

Hey everyone,
I haven't been around much but now I'm asking for your help. 
Zoey is now 14 weeks old and yes it's gone bloody fast but what I'm finding is she is so so grumpy. I'm wondering is there anything I can do or buy to help keep her interested. Whenever I put her in her bouncer or on the floor and watch some tv she starts grizzling even when I put her down for a nap. She won't sleep unless she's on me and then I put her down asleep. I feel cruel by letting her cry. 
I love her so much and just want to do right by her but I'm struggling badly.
Thanks for reading this short post 

Wednesday, 25 September 2013

A-Z Challenge - D is for Deciet

Deceiving someone. Lying. Twisting the truth. It's all the same isn't it? What happens when a decision you want and need to make will be deceiving someone. I will be deceiving my parents. Well I think I will. I haven't blogged for a long time and today I feel very down and very sad. Maybe it's this decision that is hanging over my head. I know I've only been here a few weeks but I feel like I fit in and is that really all so bad?

Sunday, 18 August 2013

#23 - Problems Part 1

You'd think after all the crap with Joey that Alex would be different but just lately I feel like we've been having problem after problem..
Just lately Alex has started being really secretive about who he's talking to and texting and it's really making me feel on edge. I feel like he doesn't want me because I'm fat still from having Zoey. I know it's probably all in my head but that's how it feels. I kind of feel so alone although I have all my friends to talk to. I don't know where to turn even though I have the support from every direction. I want Alex to tell me what's going on, why he's being so protective and demanding why he's passworded his phone and takes it everywhere with him... even to the loo when before he'd leave it on the side.

I wonder what these girls have got that I haven't is it that they are childless and have no baggage cause I mean come on a no strings attached fuck compared to a orphan teenage mum. I know I'd pick the no strings attached fuck if I was a bloke. So can I really blame him?


#22 - Scattering Dad's Ashes

I went back to Devon the day after dad's funeral. I collected some bits from the flat and then we left to come home. I was really happy to be able to pick up the photos of me, my mum and dad and all the photo albums that dad had under his bed.

 On the trip back to Devon I was in my own world. Only really talked when we had to stop so Zoey could feed or because I needed something from the services. I just wanted to be in my little bubble just me and my baby girl. My half-sister text loads of times and the last time she text was at 5pm to say she'd collected dads ashes and would make her way down to me tomorrow. I was happy that she'd got dad but upset because this really was the end. I knew he had gone but his ashes are the last bit of a person aren't they? So once they were gone that was everything of him but memories and pictures and belongings.
I went to bed subdued and upset. I couldn't sleep just lay there staring at the ceiling. I must have drifted off as next I knew I heard Zoey's cries to be fed. I couldn't get back to sleep so just lay there till my half-sister text to say she'd arrived.

I got Zoey and myself dressed and got Zoey ready in the pushchair and set off to find a spot to scatter dads ashes with my half-sister and niece and nephew. We found a spot on the beach near the water and looking at the views around us decided this was the place. Perfect place for a perfect father, I stood there and watched his ashes blow to sea. My mind seemed at ease that my daddy was finally at peace with my mummy

#21 - Final Goodbye to Dad

I went to dads funeral on July 29th. I should have blogged about this sooner but I just didn't feel strong enough to blog it until now. My social worker took me back up to Leeds for dads funeral and we stayed overnight after but god it was emotional. My half-sister planned it with input from me and I decided to speak about my dad. It hurt so much to stand next to his coffin knowing he was in there and I'd never see him again. My half sister and I had decided that she'd stay in Leeds longer to collect dads ashes and she'd bring them down to Devon for us to scatter somewhere together. Isn't it weird 15 years old and have no parents. 15 years old and a mum.

 The social worker, Zoey and I got to Leeds around midday and went to the flat I'd lived in with my dad. It was so odd to go into my home of like 10 years and it be empty. I just wandered round and showed Zoey all the rooms. My room, bathroom, living room, kitchen and dads room. I went and just sat in dads room on his bed. I lay down with Zoey breathing in the smell of my daddy. My big strong daddy who just broke down after mums death, who turned to drink. He wasn't a bad person like the social painted him to be. He was just really struggling and he couldn't get through without a drink in his hand from when he woke up to when he passed out. When I had Zoey I had to do what was best for her which is why I told the midwife about what was going on with dad. I do blame myself I feel that if I hadn't of said anything and I had gone home that dad would still be here but I know that's not true due to the damage he had inflicted on himself.

 I don't know how much time I spent in their with Zoey telling her about grandpa but eventually my half-sister knocked on the door to say that dads friends were arriving and I should come say hello and introduce Zoey to them. So I did I greeted everyone and I really did appreciate the offers of help and there condolences. This just continued until around 5 minutes before the hurst and cars arrived. Zoey was fastened in her car seat and so was my nephew and niece then me and my sister joined them in the car and off we went. I was so disconnected from the whole thing I sit and think about it now and wonder how the hell I got through it. Especially when I talked about dad.
The fun things we did the laughs we shared. How we had become closer after mums death and I spoke about dads dreams for me and the dreams he and my mum shared.
I remember the tears streaming down my face as I kissed dads coffin and said my final goodbye. I know the rest of the day was just a blur through all the crying I did.

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